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Is the Internet Making People Cowardly?

A couple of days ago I put up a post about black homophobes. One person commented trying to point out flaws in my arguments, and I really respect that and encourage a discussion (as long as it’s on a good level). We went back and forth for a few comments and then he suddenly stopped commenting. In this case I have no idea what happened, he may come back and answer my comment sooner or later, or he may have had a terrible accident and is in a full body cast for all I know. I’m not pointing fingers at just him, but it did get me thinking; is the fact that it’s so easy to walk away from discussions on the internet making people more cowardly?

If him and I would’ve had the discussion eye to eye, we would’ve discussed it until it was done and over it, or until one of us had to pee, either way the discussion would’ve been finished. On the internet however, if you have a discussion and you come across arguments you cannot combat, something you don’t like, or something you are uncomfortable answering, all you have to do is leave and never come back. I love the internet, and I love the fact that a person can be anonymous and still have an opinion. But I’m not too sure that it’s a healthy thing when it comes to the development of people’s minds. Of course people should hold on to their beliefs and morals, but it’s never wrong to change an opinion because someone else presents you with facts or ideas that may trump the one you had before hand. On the internet this is something that is very hard to attain simply because it’s so easy to walk away from a discussion.

People don’t generally like change, and especially not change within themselves, so changing your own opinion about a subject you feel strongly about may be the hardest thing in the world, especially if you’re a very proud and/or stubborn person. It’s scary for some people to realize that they are wrong, hell it’s scary to me sometimes (just ask my partner), and when you’re provided with such an easy out for admitting that someone else’s opinion trumps yours, most people will take it. I’ve done it multiple times probably without even thinking about it. Sometimes it’s because I don’t feel like it’s worth my time since the person with whom I’m having a discussion won’t ever budge no matter what facts I throw at him. Sometimes it’s just because I rather take the easy way out. Is that wrong? Probably. The more important question is though, has it actually stagnated my own intellectual growth by not finishing discussions and maybe truly understand what a person from another viewpoint is saying? It most likely has.

Ask yourself, how many political, philosophical, or other types of discussions you’ve had on the internet have you left simply because you felt defeated and didn’t want to admit it? For me it’s probably more than I can count, and it’s funny because as I’m writing this I’m starting to remember more and more discussions that I’ve left, and I’m starting to feel quite embarrassed about it. Why can’t I just say “you know what, I really see what you’re saying and I think you’re right about this”? Is that really such a blow to my own ego that I can’t even admit that another person, even on the internet, has a good argument that might make me get more insightful about a particular subject? Maybe if people were more open minded about other people’s ideas and opinions, and not so hard headed about keeping our own unmodified, we would get a more productive and understanding society overall…

What do you think?…




… *logging out*


Welcome To My Place

This post was originally called “Hello World”, and I guess that is quite an appropriate way of starting the first post of a blog. So without further ado, Hello World! I’m broadcasting from and to the internets today because I believe that I have something to say. Something that might interest you, something that might intrigue you. Or something that will offend you so immensely that you never want to come back and visit this web page ever again. It’s all in your mind, how you perceive the world, or even how you were raised. Either way, what I have to say is extremely important, and it will be said with my head held high.

Dear World… I am a homosexual. How big of a homosexual, you might ask. Well, a pretty big one, I would answer. Oh god, not another one of those gay blogs with pink backgrounds and gossip about reality TV shows, and celebrities, you might think. And I’m here to tell you that that is exactly what this blog is. Another gay blog with content that really doesn’t matter in the end. Who cares about how ugly the contestants on America’s Next Top Model was this season (they were pretty ugly actually)? Well, I’m here to tell you that gay people do. Why? Because gay people are a breed of their own, which is kind of funny since we’re not known to breed, but this breed is indeed a very special branch on the tree that is humanity. I’m sorry if I disappointed you with my skills in writing, I lured you in with an interesting opening, and then in the end this is just going to be another blog about stupid shit that only stupid people care about. Well… I guess I just fooled you yet again. Man, this blog already has more twists and turns than the average Lost episode.

Paragraph three, the end of the beginning. This blog will not, I repeat, WILL NOT, be another blog about celebrity gossip, or fashion, or reality TV. No, this blog will be about what I like. So what do I like? Let’s see, I like my hubby Rick, I like videogames, I like politics, I like technology, I like science, I like smart humor, I like music, I like amusement parks, and I like… like. If I like it, I can bet you that it will be found on this page at one time or another. If I like you, you might even end up here, who knows? But for now, I am the only one that will be here, but hopefully that will change soon.